X marks the spot!

Remember the days when an ex became an ex? You break up have some fights and move on. In grade school, it was the I hate her/him for a week and than you'd be friends and than your friends would than become the next boy/girl friend. In Junior High and High school is when the code was established. You don't date your friend exes unless you are prepared to end your friendship. 90% of the time this happened the friendship would end and than the relationship would end and you would end up wondering what the big deal was to make you chose to do that and than...live by the code and never date a friends ex. Than adult hood came.... these are the true tests of relationships. No matter how long, good, bad the relationship was you always learned something new about yourself. That lesson would carry with you to the next relationship. You now have rules of dating. Things you look for, wont put up with and wont settle for. This why most of us end up dating for YEARS!!!! Than one day BAM...like a ton of bricks you meet someone that makes you forget about your rules. The rules and walls that have taken years to build... torn down like the Berlin wall. You feel excitement, love, feelings, overwhelming feeling of wanting to breathe in every bit of this person it becomes intoxicating. You love this person unconditionally and than...BAGGAGE! No one is perfect, much to our amazement. The perfect person you met has imperfection. In this stage, you want to stick around and not leave the feeling you have been addicted to. In my case, my person had an ex marriage!!!! This can be ok in most situations. Divorces can get ugly and get crazy and cause drama but sometime they can be completely cordial. Most of the divorced people I know, the latter was the case. In my love bubble, it was not. I got stuck with the ex who didn't want to except her title. Thought he would always come back and still does to this day. My person and I are now married. They have kids together. Divorced after 6 years, separated for 3. Divorced Final. I have a child from a previous relationship too. I know that when you are over a person, you are over a person. My ex and i are cordial. No personal conversations unless its about our kids. A friendly how is the family but no drama. I talk to his wife respectfully as she does to me. No weirdness, no pettiness. Just normal cordial respect. My husband ex wife calls to ask him about everything their kids say about him and I. She wants to know about his job, his hours, his life!!! Sorry you lost that privilege. Her last remark to him about me (a week ago) was "I hope you don't think that you were the only guy in her bed" WTF !!!! I am the bigger woman here and I know this, but because I have class and dignity and won't let her get to me (all the time) it doesn't take away the urge to wanna just kick her ass and tell her to move on!!! I wont do this but boy do I want to. Fortunately my hubby does put her in her place and tell her the only conversations they need to have are about the kids. I wish he could tell her to FUCK OFF! That isn't good for the kids. I just miss the days when an ex became an ex and stayed there. PS.. I have seen her and I am so much HOTTER.. that also makes it easier to be the bigger person plus I GOT YOUR MAN BITCH!!!! LOL Feels good to say. Like most girls it feels good to admit too.